It's difficult not to wish things to be different. We wish for a better job, for a better partner, for a better body, for a better brain, and the list goes on. But it's exactly when we get stuck on what we wish to change, that change doesn't happen. Instead, when we start appreciating what we have, that's when we get closer to our wishes. So the trick to change is to focus on what we do, have or feel, that makes us happy, and wait for those things to grow bigger inside us.
When those things start to be seen from the exterior, people start noticing our change, but that shouldn’t ever matter. If you wish to continue growing free and constantly peaceful, you can’t take anything personally.
Meaning that, what others are seeing or saying to you, only tells you about them, not about yourself. What you feel and wish is your thing. Practice not to be attached to recognition or outside opinions, but follow what makes you feel good.
Words are very powerful, and most people don’t give the necessary attention to what they say, so sometimes we get hurt and that hurt can last a lifetime. For example, you tell a friend or a parent that you’ve found a new job in a bookstore, something you had always secretly dreamed off, and they say something like “oh... well, but it’s only temporary right? until you find a better job”. They care for you, they want what they think it’s best for you, but they’re not living your life or your own feelings, or you spiritual call. For you it might be important to hand out books that matter to people that need them... we have so many own self reasons to choose what we choose that no one should ever try to change us. If it’s a negative pathway someone is choosing you can help them, but not through criticism, instead choose to bring up what there is of good inside them.
We need to be doing things, and rebuild, for "Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." - Dale Carnegie
What we need is people with confidence and courage to be happy.