Give people more credit for their ability to empathize and understand you on a deeper level... so, learn to be HONEST.
Lies are told to eliminate the guilt, avoid punishments, and get back to the objectionable behavior we're forced to lie about. But remember, it's a vicious cycle...
How to stop that?
When you lie, you're covering up some uncomfortable truth that's more easily couched in a lie. You can either get comfortable with the truth, or abandon the behavior that makes you embarrassed.
In synthesis: Come out, or leave it.
Real honesty comes first within yourself. As much as you can, try and eliminate excuses from your mind. Know yourself and Love yourself. If there are issues you're ashamed off, address them!
Lying to yourself is easy. It's easy to come up with a couple hundred reasons not to do something you don't want to do. That's why we let it happen so often! Make it hard on yourself.
If you're not honest with yourself and others, you're not giving yourself any credit.
Forget what you think other people want to hear. Speak from your heart and tell the truth, unconcerned about whether or not it will make you look "bad." People respect honesty, even when the truth is uncomfortable.
There's never too much honesty. But don't be confused between honesty and judgment, criticism, too much opinion about everything. Some good tips on how not to become a "straight-shooter":
- Use "I" statements when sharing uncomfortable truths. Focus on talking about your! feelings, and your! opinions, to stay respectful of others. It's all just your! point of view.
- Learn to listen quietly while others are speaking, even if you disagree with what they're saying.
"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom."