For that reason there is a lot of loneliness and frustration out there.
Love is about presence, not expert performance.
It's not that your partner is a terrible dancer. You can learn how to dance.
It's about presence.
You can feel pleasure and connection just from the touch of her or his hand.
To tune in the other, to tune into each other.
But Love takes time. Attraction is what you feel at first as you laugh and share good feelings, but later, you have to continue to fall in Love, over and over. You will step on each others foot once & while, and disagree in some non-important details of your perspective on the world, but you can reconnect again, and fall in Love again.
In a relationship, whether it is with one person or with the world,
we need to feel we matter.
Long lasting relationships are possible and can bring up emotions and new learning's on ourselves that in short-term encounters there's no space to happen. But in order to make them last, you need to engage with the other.
When you're in a relationship and you feel alone, you are far worst that someone that is just alone. Because you see everyday how that love vibration could happen, but you can't reach it, like a wonderful banquet and you're behind the glass, behind the well framed mirror.
Words of Dr. Sue Johnson. Thank you.