... your friends will tell you, "Oh, you didn't know any better", or "It's life...". They'll try to protect you from the harsh truth that you were (are) wrong, that you didn't do the right thing, that you don't do anything of what you preach, but hey, who does it really? ... well, that's choosing the easy, unworthy way to live. We don't know what we're doing in this planet. Nobody knows exactly. There are hints, very good hints, very good theories on this overwhelming subject of what it means to be human in some planet, in a very big vast Universe, but we need to accept that "we don't know" to have the humbleness to learn.
So I don't know.
But not knowing doesn't give me an excuse to be selfish or coward. There's no excuse for that.
Selfishness starts when we become to choose too much just for ourselves. When we start choosing based on what we can get other than what we can give/exchange. And it builds up towards unhealthy expectations. We start believing that we deserve better just because we know we deserve better. Everyone deserves better. Every child, adult or old person deserves better. Can we have it all at the same time? Well, if all that we want is to get, then not really.
We must also find the pleasure of giving. Getting by giving.
Give what, if I don't have much?!
Giving by listening. To be a good listener, you have to let go of your own beliefs—even for
just a moment in time. You can’t be thinking of your next words or
move—or that your own thoughts are better and more worthwhile.
Giving by letting your needs be met after others. Do you really need everything at this moment and in some specific way? Learn to let it go. If right now it's not a good moment to do things your way, can't you do them later, your way still...
Giving by putting yourself in others shoes. We don't know much about the real reasons behind someone else's decisions and feelings. Understanding that everyone is doing the best they can, given their
situation, background experience, education, beliefs or lack of
understanding is key. We're all made of the same stuff, meaning that
if you were the other person (walking in their shoes), you would be
exactly the same way they are.
... and giving by not being a coward.
Own your truth, own your decisions, own your Life, your breath, your voice, your body.
Cowards don't Love. How can you Love if you don't even have the courage to be yourself, to Love yourself? Cowardness lives in the hearts of the hatred as they fail to speak their beliefs. Cowards don't ever forgive. They recoil as any shotgun after firing and hide.
Own your Life. Face your fears.