Saturday, June 27, 2015

Finding the Why's and forgive.

How easy would it be to see things exactly as they are, instead of manipulated by who we are.

We know it's easy to look back and think how we could have done things differently. We could have spoken what our heart told us secretly, we could have stopped to listen what was being said, we could have been gentler and less scared, we could have been less selfish and more giving.

How easy would it be if we had a constant reminder that we might be wrong, that we don't know everything and that what we do know is masked by our own deceiving self-beliefs.

Because of the constant mind chatter and intrusiveness, we should stop at least once a day to re-think our actions and choices - This is it. Now is what really matters - what is was, what it will be it's out of our reach. We can always tell a different story to ourselves, sugar coat our words or actions, but the truth will eventually rise to the surface, just like an air bubble rises to the surface, and it can happen at the worst time ever... So think about what you're saying to yourself.

Our fears tell us we need to be sure, we need to know, we need to react, but usually the heart asks for a bit of more time, for a bit more patience and compassion.

Love is the absence of judgment.

Dalai Lama

I always come back to the same ideas, but they are the core of how to live in society, of sharing and living together... If we acted with more gratitude and humbleness, we could give so much, and actually receive even more in return.

We all make mistakes, we all wish for happier endings, we all wish to be understood, loved, recognized... remember the joy you felt when you're caught by a friend or a parent doing something you were proud of. We continue to search, all through our life, for that recognition, that feeling of appreciation.

We're not that different from each other. Some of us have deep anger inside, have hate rooted in their heart, but we share the same nature, and what we think we would never do, we might see ourselves doing it one day.

Regret is another form of self-pity. You regret and you feel forgiven. Stop regretting and face what your heart most desires. Is it forgiveness, is it compassion, is it bringing joy to the ones close to you?
Change your Past and Future right now.

Open your heart and don't be afraid of being wrong. Let others know that you're still learning, that you have many doubts on Life or certainties that can be completely foolish.

If we begin to see others as people, your parents, your wife or husband, your sister, your brother as people, people that "we should have known better", people that are complicated, people that have confusing inner feelings and many fears, maybe we could then accept that if only we knew, any of us, we would have done it better. We would have done it better. If a hand had been given to us, we would have made the leap, if a compassionate face had told us that it's OK, we could have maybe shouted that it's not... see others as you would like to see yourself, through a lens of Love, warmth, care, respect, forgiveness...

You could have done it better but you didn't, but NOW, right now (not tomorrow), now you can do better. Use your time for that, either at work or leisure time.

“. . gentleness is stronger than severity, water is stronger than rock, love is stronger than force.”

Hermann Hesse

E para alguém muito especial, obrigada pelo amor, carinho e tanta generosidade.
"Aí vai cu!"

Monday, June 15, 2015

and Live

The soul feels and the brain complicates it

Truth is simple and open to all. Why do you complicate? Truth is loving and lovable. It includes all, accepts all, purifies all. It is untruth that is difficult and a source of trouble. It always wants, expects, demands. Being false, it is empty, always in search of confirmation and reassurance. It is afraid of and avoids enquiry. It identifies itself with any support, however weak and momentary. Whatever it gets, it loses and asks for more. Therefore put no faith in the conscious. Nothing you can see, feel, or think is so. Even sin and virtue, merit and demerit are not what they appear. Pursue any desire, it will always give you trouble.

Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

How many times did you know it before even thinking about it? How many times you felt it, whether in the form of some sadness or as an excited shy giggle... We sense it, we feel it, we smell it before our brain tells us what to do, before chocking our throat to make us stop and think: what is the righteous course of action and where is the balance between what I want and what I should do.

It's an important question this last one. To think about what we want and what we should do it's crucial to be/act as a good friend, a good companion, a good daughter or mother, a good colleague or just a nice stranger. We must think about what we want and what we should.

But, before wanting, there's an impulse, an urge, an impulsive curiosity and that feeling is our soul telling us if we should/want to follow one lead or if should/want to ignore it.

Whatever the direction, then act responsibly and be clear to others about what you want and what you should do. Sometimes what we want doesn't match with our reality, what we want it's not what our dear ones expect from us, in that case, act as you should. We should always be honest and gentle in our words about what we want.

We need women who are so strong they can be gentle, so educated they can be humble, so fierce they can be compassionate, so passionate they can be rational, and so disciplined they can be free.

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

It's scary to be alone, but at the same we can get used to it... But we need more than ourselves. We need to share and feel that we're not alone, that we're not crazy, that there's hope beyond our own thoughts. Sometimes we are left with just ourselves, only and just ourselves, and despite the many conversations and theories one can come up with, we need to be proven we exist, we need to be proven that we matter.

So here's the thought for the evening. We matter, always.

Even if you're confined to a room, a bed, a hard reality or just a very simple unattached life, you matter, and the proof of that is that, at any moment we can change our reality. We can choose to be silent and away, but we can later choose to speak loudly, to dance or feel another person. We can choose what to feel because our thoughts matter. Prison is ultimately a state of mind, but be "mindful" that it's very easy to live as if in a prison. You might not have guards watching over every step you give and big walls to keep you hidden, but you can still live in a prison from Life and its challenges.

Watch the video BBC Video
What does it feel like to be confined for so long and then set free? One of the 'Angola 3' men, Robert King, was released in 2001 - after spending 29 years in total isolation. He described his experience to the BBC in an interview three years ago.

Monday, June 1, 2015

From a very beautiful lady...

“When I say … “I am a Christian”
I’m not shouting “I’m clean livin’.”
I’m whispering “I was lost,
Now I’m found and forgiven.”

When I say … “I am a Christian”
I don’t speak of this with pride.
I’m confessing that I stumble
and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say … “I am a Christian”
I’m not trying to be strong.
I’m professing that I’m weak
And need His strength to carry on.

When I say … “I am a Christian”
I’m not bragging of success.
I’m admitting I have failed
And need God to clean my mess.

When I say … “I am a Christian”
I’m not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible
But, God believes I am worth it.

When I say … “I am a Christian”
I still feel the sting of pain.
I have my share of heartaches
So I call upon His name.

When I say … “I am a Christian”
I’m not holier than thou,
I’m just a simple sinner
Who received God’s good grace, somehow!"
Maya Angelou