Hum... what if it's the other way around?
What if we don't possess the perfect mind that knows what's best for ourselves and others. What if we don't have that super wise inner voice to guide us, and instead we get most of everything a bit wrong?
I think we must watch out, for it's the mind who runs the show, and that mind is a direct product of what it has seen, heard and felt over the years. What if the "school" of life we've been hasn't been the best exemplary or inspirational one?
So, maybe the solution is outside. Maybe instead of keeping looking inwards, we could take a good look outside and trust that what it might feel wrong to us, might feel that way because either it's wrong or some previous experience has shown that.
To sort of prove my point, is it true or not that most people find their purpose/life lessons either through raising children or confronting illness or death?
Life demands that we become adults, which means going against the whole drift of the culture. It specifically means, among other things, soothing your own bad feelings without the help of another, pursuing your own goals, and standing on your own two feet.
So we can be better if we search outwards for good examples or inspiration by enlighten beings. We need that outside help. We can be broken and in need of some fixing. The last thing you want to do is to put yourself even worst by blaming everything on you. You don't know any better! You don't know any better until you experience the "right" way...
“All teachings are mere references. The true experience is living your own life. Then, even the holiest of words are only words.”
Here's a list of things we can start doing to improve ourselves.
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"1. Your Possessions – Too many material possessions complicate our lives to a greater degree than we ever give them credit. They drain our bank account, our energy, and our attention. They keep us from the ones we love and from living a life based on our values. If you will invest the time to remove nonessential possessions from your life, you will never regret it."
2. Your Time Commitments – Most of us have filled our days full from beginning to end with time commitments: work, home, kid’s activities, community events, religious endeavors, hobbies… the list goes on. When possible, release yourself from the time commitments that are not in line with your greatest values.
3. Your Goals – Reduce the number of goals you are intentionally striving for in your life to one or two. By reducing the number of goals that you are striving to accomplish, you will improve your focus and your success rate. Make a list of the things that you want to accomplish in your life and choose the two most important. When you finish one, add another from your list.
4. Your Negative Thoughts – Most negative emotions are completely useless. Resentment, bitterness, hate, and jealousy have never improved the quality of life for a single human being. Take responsibility for your mind. Forgive past hurts and replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
5. Your Debt – If debt is holding you captive, reduce it. Start today. Do what you’ve got to do to get out from under its weight. Find the help that you need. Sacrifice luxury today to enjoy freedom tomorrow.
6. Your Words – Use words with care. Keep your speech plain and honest. Mean what you say. Avoid gossip.
7. Your Artificial Ingredients – Avoid trans fats, refined grain (white bread), high-fructose corn syrup, and too much sodium. Minimizing these ingredients will improve your energy level in the short-term and your health in the long-term. Also, as much as possible, reduce your consumption of over-the-counter medicine – allow your body to heal itself naturally as opposed to building a dependency on substances.
8. Your Screen Time – Focusing your attention on television, movies, video games, and technology affects your life more than you think. Media rearranges your values. It begins to dominate your life. And it has a profound impact on your attitude and outlook. Unfortunately, when you live in that world on a consistent basis, you don’t even notice how it is impacting you. The only way to fully appreciate its influence in your life is to turn them off.
9. Your Connections to the World – Relationships with others are good, but constant streams of distraction are bad. Learn when to power off the blackberry, log off Facebook, or not read a text. Focus on the important, not the urgent. A steady flow of distractions from other people may make us feel important, needed, or wanted, but feeling important and accomplishing importance are completely different things.
10. Your Multi-Tasking – Research indicates that multi-tasking increases stress and lowers productivity. while single-tasking is becoming a lost art, learn it. Handle one task at a time. Do it well. And when it is complete, move to the next.
Wind from the Sea - Edward Gordon