on Guilt...

...
Is there always a right way to do things?

If you you’re stealing, lying, cheating, faking, deceiving, harming, criticizing or judging others.
If you’re a coward or selfish and you manipulate, abuse, neglect, disrespect the ones that trust you, then, yeah, you’re doing everything the wrong away and you “aint worth shit”. Simple as that.

But do you regret being a shithead? ... Hum?
Ok, that’s a start. You might still have a chance of doing something right.

You see, guilt acts as an alarm clock to warn you about that choice of yours, a signal that tells you you’re not doing the right thing. If you’re feeling guilty, you know exactly what’s making you feel that way, and there’s your answer. But here’s the fucked up thing about guilt. It actually stops you from doing the right thing. It just pinches you and nags you till you reach such high levels of saturation that you stop thinking straight. And, how stupid can this be, guilt can actually make you avoid the person you’ve wronged.

So, stop feeling guilty and move on. What can you do to make emends?
Say I’m sorry and commit to never ever again repeat the same mistake.

Be brave to be good.
Be smart to do good.
Be clear to feel good.

… and remember. Life is a miracle. Respect your own Life, respect others.
How do you do that?! Well...
Stop being fucking selfish! and give thanks for all the beautiful things you’ve experienced, lived. All the adventures, love, friendship even the hardship. To breathe, to cry, to laugh, to smell the rain or feel the power of a wave… it’s a miracle! I call it a miracle because we don’t know where all this comes from!

Yes, I’ve been a fucked up shithead and I’ve hurt some really good people on my way. If I could go back would I’ve done differently? Yeah, of course!! But I can’t. We can’t. The only thing on my power is to commit in making emends and never again repeat the same mistake.

Can we change...?
Learn, read, study about Courage. Courage to speak your mind, heart and soul.
Like this:

"(...) If you really love me, then let's make a vow. Right here... together... right now. Ok? - Ok... - All right, repeat after me... I'm gonna be free. - I'm gonna be free. - And I'm gonna be brave... - I'm gonna be brave. - Good... I'm gonna live each day as if it were my last. - Oh that's good... - You like that ? - Yeah... - Say it. - I'm gonna live each day as it were my last... - Fantastically... - Fantastically. - Courageously... - Courageously. - With grace... - With grace. - And in the dark of the night, and it does get dark, when I call a name... - When I call a name... - It' ll be your name... What's your name ?
[no answer] Never mind... let's go... say it. - Let's go... - Everywhere... - Everywhere... - Even though... - Even though... - We're scared... - We're scared... - Cause it's life... - It's life... - and it's happening, it's really really happening... RIGHT NOW..."
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Miranda July
"Me, you and everyone"

... what if you don’t trust or believe in what your mind, heart or soul tells you?

Well, admitting that is a 1st step... Then work it out!
What kind of life are you living if you’re not flying it?
Listen to yourself, know yourself, figure out what are your dreams and your Life's purposes.
Common, do you really want to keep living under other people opinions and plans?!
If we really want to be of any good, we must think for ourselves, which is not the same as being selfish. You’re a lot more helpful when you're clear and you know what you want, then when you're leaning all your weight against someone else’s already complicated life. Get your shit together. Plan, work hard for it, on the way, try to be helpful, share some warm smiles and hugs. Become useful...

So, stop being such a shithead and start making of yourself someone you’d be proud to meet! You'll always look back, there’ll be always a mirror reflecting your actions. Make yourself proud! Most of the time it hurts to do the right thing, but you’ll feel alive and more important, you won’t be ashamed of who you are.

… in this I believe.

"...I climbed the tree to see the world."

Finally...

“If you are sad, ask yourself why you are sad. Then pick up the phone and call someone and tell him the answer to the question. If you don’t know anyone, call the operator and tell him. Most people don’t know that the operator has to listen, it is a law. Also, the postman is not allowed to go inside your house, but you can talk to him on public property for up to four minutes or until he wants to go, whichever comes first.”
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Miranda July

On secrets...

As simple as that... kids get it better than we do.

What is Dance? from Christian Robinson on Vimeo.

“there are times when we stop.
we sit still.
we listen.
& breezes from a whole other world
begin to whisper.”
—
James Carroll

I am the Captain of my Ship!

Persistence, positive self-talk, build your confidence not from thinking you can't do it. We all have it in ourselves... reinforce positive actions, feelings. Choose well what you believe.

on Words

Our words, mine, yours, shape the World.
Choose your words carefully,
either in "just" your own thoughts or speaking with others.
Kindness and Courage go hand by hand.

Meet Nick Vujicic:

“Have you ever felt trapped in circumstances, then discovered that the only trap was your own lack of vision, lack of courage, or failure to see that you had better options? (...)
well, if you can't get a miracle, become one.
...God's love is so real that He created you to prove it. Give it back.
We may have absolutely no control over what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. If we choose the right attitude, we can rise above whatever challenges we face.  
(...) I encourage you to accept that you may not be able to see a path right now, but that doesn't mean it's not there.” 

“A soft woman
or a red fox
caught in meditation.”

“The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.”
—
F. Scott Fitzgerald

“Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.”
—
Alan Watts

(...)
As a little child may learn
To sit or stand or wait his turn
The things you know will slowly slip away
All we have is here and now, today
(...)

 

 The 7 Lessons

1. Allow yourself the uncomfortable luxury of changing your mind.
2. Do nothing out of guilt, or for prestige, status, money or approval alone.
3. Be generous with your time and your resources and with giving credit and, especially, with your words.
4. Build pockets of stillness into your life.
5. Maya Angelou famously said, ‘When people tell you who they are, believe them’. But even more importantly, when people try to tell you who you are, don’t believe them.
6. Presence is far more intricate and rewarding an art than productivity. As Annie Dillard memorably put it, “how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”
7. Debbie Millman captures our modern predicament beautifully: “Expect anything worthwhile to take a long time.” 

_Maria Popova

on Love

Summing it up... ways to get real!

“1. Don’t try to piss quietly. Nobody in a public restroom thinks you’re knitting in your stall. They came to piss, just like you. And if you have to take a dump, do it. Get over your fear of public toilets. It’ll make life a lot easier.

2. Masturbate. Masturbate a lot. Talk about it with your friends. You’ve got the right to make yourself feel good and brag about it just like all the boys with extra large kleenex packages on their desks.

3. Laugh as loud as you have to, no matter if you snort or gasp or literally scream.

4. Always remember you weren’t born to visually please others. It's your body, take care of it and have fun with it!

5. Speak your mind! You can learn to do so without insulting others or shoving your opinion down other people’s throats.

6. You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in.

7. Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life.

8. Life does go on, and it can be better tomorrow. Believe and do something about it.”
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FROM 
http://saraminna.wordpress.com  
 

Everybody's gotta learn sometime

Because we start from nothing and at the end, all we get to take with us are the lessons learned,

the experiences lived and shared.

Our body is borrowed. At the end of our life we give it back.

We should do our best to take care of it, but don't get to attached to it. It is just a body.

It's our choice what to do with our life, how to feel and what to create with what we have.

Pay attention to what you're holding on to. You will look back...

In Life, things are guaranteed to get hard, yet you are not alone in this. Suffering is part of everyone's life assignment. Like mud to the lotus flower. Don't quit, find love, find that sunshine.

There is no wrong or right path, every path you take is a choice that will lead you somewhere.

Every decision changes you and takes you where you're meant to be. 

But try, every time, to choose Love over fear.

... take care of your dreams.

Play : ) specially when it's not funny!

“When we look deep into the heart of a flower, we see clouds, sunshine, minerals, time, the earth, and everything else in the cosmos in it. Without clouds there could be no rain, and there would be no flower.”
—
Thich Nhat Hanh

Gently awakenning... to a New World: your own.

"It's like you took a bottle of ink and you threw it at a wall. Smash! And all that ink spread. And in the middle, it's dense, isn't it? And as it gets out on the edge, the little droplets get finer and finer and make more complicated patterns, see? So in the same way, there was a big bang at the beginning of things and it spread. And you and I, sitting here in this room, as complicated human beings, are way, way out on the fringe of that bang. We are the complicated little patterns on the end of it. Very interesting. But so we define ourselves as being only that. If you think that you are only inside your skin, you define yourself as one very complicated little curlique, way out on the edge of that explosion. Way out in space, and way out in time. Billions of years ago, you were a big bang, but now you're a complicated human being. And then we cut ourselves off, and don't feel that we're still the big bang. But you are. Depends how you define yourself. You are actually - if this is the way things started, if there was a big bang in the beginning - you're not something that's a result of the big bang. You're not something that is a sort of puppet on the end of the process. You are still the process. You are the big bang, the original force of the universe, coming on as whoever you are. When I meet you, I see not just what you define yourself as - Mr so-and-so, Ms so-and-so, Mrs so-and-so - I see every one of you as the primordial energy of the universe coming on at me in this particular way. I know I'm that, too. But we've learned to define ourselves as separate from it. ”
―
Alan W. Watts