On the feeling of guilt on living or not living enough

... we Live, we learn, that's what we are told as we grow up and it seems to make sense, to be true, but later, as we experience more than imagined, one does come to realize he learns to Live.

We need resources to Live and those are not only the basic ones: health through food and smartness/luck, but also to Live through the risk of believing and pursuing intimate ideas, also known as dreams.

All that happens to us, including our humiliations, our misfortunes, our deep sadness, it's energy to exist.

To exist...
To have actual being; to be real.
To have life
To continue to be; to persist...

When sadness wins you over, one can feel guilty to exist, but also guilty for not fighting for living. Choosing to accept that to feel guilty is also to appreciate Life's immense value, helps turning sadness into a platonic love for all the experiences that happen to us, good or bad.

But here's the word, the concept, the thing we need and search our entire lives to feel we exist... be it platonic, dreamt, imagined, we need to feel Loved and Love.

"The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved"

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Victor Hugo

In modern times...

Learning more on how to Live...

The way to live is through Love.
"If a person you love comes in the same door 5 times, jump in happiness everytime, don't hold back..."


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We have evolved... and survived. You know why?

... the consciousness of community. The power of living in community saved us.

As we look into nowadays society's trends, it is interesting to see how much emphasis is put on the individual and his consciousness, the mind as the tool and medium, and how happiness can be achieved through some/or a lot of mind control. Disciplines like philosophy, psychology and other alternative non-laboratorial disciplines are no longer intellectual hobbies of eccentric minds, but instead have become sort of foundations to our development. With that focus on the mind and the individual, technology has evolved very rapidly through emotional seduction.

Thats is why everywhere you look, it's all about the Individual, the person alone, in itself, unique in every aspect, the concept of I-technology, of "Think different" and "Just do it", don't care what others think, be yourself.

But what do you really achieve just by yourself?
Do you really think you could survive just on your own?
No electricity, no tools, just you...

We could maybe survive for some time, but not as we have here in the world has a specie, surpassing a lot stronger enemy species like the Neanderthal man.

Some scientists have shown through evidence that we're not the strongest, but since we started cultivating, not only the land but the ties between our brothers and sisters we got more powerful. The sense of being part of a big family made us more resistant to change and more adaptable. We began to acquire social organizational skills and with that, we gained a sense of conduct, a sense of right and wrong. True that we did not care much for the good of other species besides our own, as we can actually see still happening today, but in a group, we take care of our kind.

“Primeval man regarded actions as good or bad, solely as they obviously affected the welfare of the tribe, not of the species."
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Darwin

So we're not weaker of mind for caring about our neighbour. Instead we're acting smart by thinking about the health and balance of the group.

True or not, here's a good idea: "In the Babemba tribe of South Africa, when a person acts irresponsibly or unjustly, he is placed in the centre of the village, alone and unfettered. All work ceases, and every man, woman, and child in the village gathers in a large circle around the accused individual.

Then each person in the tribe speaks to the accused, one at a time, each recalling the good things the person in the centre of the circle has done in his lifetime. Every incident, every experience that can be recalled with any detail and accuracy, is recounted. All his positive attributes, good deeds, strengths, and kindnesses are recited carefully and at length. This tribal ceremony often lasts for several days.

At the end, the tribal circle is broken, a joyous celebration takes place, and the person is symbolically and literally welcomed back into the tribe."

We change, people change and with us, the world changes.

We can only survive in community, but community means that we share the same vibe, we share common interests, we care for the well being of all. Unfortunately race, religion, politics and wealth have classified, divided and separated us, but we can see the results of that disconnection: death.

Let's get together again. Forgive others for their mistakes, and help instead of just pointing the finger.

"We are the world, we are the children, we are the ones who make a brighter day, so let's start giving. There's a choice we're making, we're saving our own lives. It's true we'll make a better day"

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Michael Jackson

Vulnerable? Yes... but real.

This world is an amazing beautiful place, but we are not amazing or beautiful. I'm sorry if this is too brusk and too early/late on the day to read this, but how can we ever be amazing and beautiful if even towards each other we tend to choose defensiveness over trust and openness; if we doubt humbleness to ever be a choice; if we can only see miracles and grace as a subject for saints and holy spirits?

We share this same World and it's laws, and through curious minds we've learned that everything in the universe eventually moves from order to disorder, entropy.

We are taught that we must share some sort of moral conduct (aka religion), we must respect each other and live accordingly with society's rules, but what a pity that never we are taught to live with our hearts. Our Heart is not selfish, our mind is, our mind covets. Our mind wants to control, our Hearts wants to play, dance, sing, feel freedom.

The number one cause of everything, is Love: for Life, for another, for a feeling, for a belief, a cause, a choice... and being there a cause there's an effect.

Remember being in Love? Isn't it true that one of the first things that happen when you fall in Love is to lose control of yourself? Yes, Love teaches us humbleness... we fall in Love, we let our guards down and open ourselves to another. And to be Loved is to be able to show our weaknesses without the other person using them to assert their strength. We cannot love with our minds.

... but who can really surrender to the apparent randomness of Life?
How can we reconcile passion with patience? Through Love.
Love with the light in your heart and not with the "supposed laws" of your mind.

If we really care and think a bit through on what we are doing here, alive and breathing, then we can see for ourselves how this world is amazing, how incredible it is that all that had to happen in order for us humans to be here did happen. So, respect. Respect. We know very little of what there is to know. So, be humble, be gentle, be a brother and sister to the person next to you, and OK, solve problems with your mind, but feel with your Heart.

"The only way to reduce ugliness in the World is to reduce it in yourself"... and yes, we will fail over and over again to do the right thing, to choose the right word, to make the right choice, there, accept it, we will never be right. Nevermind being right! Feel love, and care for others, no one is perfect.

"Humility is the awareness that there’s a lot you don’t know and that a lot of what you think you know is distorted or wrong. (...) We don’t become better because we acquire new information. We become better because we acquire better loves. We don’t become what we know. Education is a process of love formation. When you go to a school, it should offer you new things to love."

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David Brooks, The Road to Character