On Lack of Character

… your friends will support you and try to be your friends, they’ll excuse your mistakes if they don't get hurt. Society might tell you that you had no choice. Books will show that you’re “just” ignorant on the subject, but you… you’ll always now that you did wrong and that you’re not a good person.
The label, good or bad person, is not as blind as we tend to put it. There are specific traits in both. If your choices reveal more of one kind than another, then it’s clear on which side you’re on.
There is a scale of good and badness. One person can be good or a saint. One can be bad or a monster. Still, it’s all measurable through your actions/choices (conduct).

A way to explain how can one human being be so different from another is by analyzing their core values, meaning, going through what society has established as having a strong or a weak character. Either you respond to situations in a noble way or you choose the selfish and unthoughtful path.

If we break apart and simplify what defines holding a strong character or having none, we can come up with a set of adjectives that separate both.

If you lack character, then you carry in your actions lack of integrity, laziness, dishonesty, lack of perseverance, of self-discipline, of self-control. You hold unreliability, unworthiness, cowardice. You become someone others can't trust.

So, for the opposite to be true, your personality must be linked to a set of values like integrity, honesty, conscientiousness, trustworthiness, courage, seriousness and so on.

Most people that “Lack Character” will believe that they’re only taking care of their own Life, as is everyone else and unfortunately, only until they’re hit in they heart by the reflection of who they’ve become, they’ll continue taking care of business as usual.

How can we build a stronger character? What causes that fault in our personality?

Trust that you’ll be ok no matter what. Life is hard for everyone, even for those who seem to have it all. It’s hard to share, to be open towards another person. As we grow we learn to protect our toys, our secrets, our treasures. But very rarely things happen as we expected, right? Our mind makes plans and creates realities that most of the time are not met. So control your expectations. Accept what it is right now, right here. Our life is a sand castle that lives constantly “threaten” by the ocean tides, by the wind, rain or sunshine and by other sand castles builders. If you’re not happy, it’s not because someone or something is making you sad. You’re the architect of your own sand castle. Change what you think it can be changed, but not by stealing sand from another castle. If you’ve shared your castle with another, respect the bridges built between. Be a good neighbour, especially towards the people you care the most. You’re not more or less if you have a bigger castle. The quality of your castle foundations come from your own self. How much Love and respect do you have for yourself? If it’s not much, your castle is a fragile one and very easily it can that just fall apart.

If your castle as fallen apart, go through your mistakes, go deep into its foundations. Understand where you didn’t pay attention. What did you neglect? … From there and with humbleness and holding the thought that you can grow a good solid character, start again.

Keep in mind, you can be happy no matter what, but you must hold on tight to your set of values. Show Love for the ones in your life. Respect others choices and freedom. Be independent, emotionally and financially. Honour your commitments, but be clear with who/what you’ve committed to. Don’t just tell to yourself. Say it out loud! Speak your mind. Great intelligence comes from great Passion, and with Wisdom comes Compassion. So support your choices with self-conviction and an intelligent discourse, but be kind towards yourself and others. Things are not just as they are, you’re part of it. We are all part of it. We seem to be all a drift but we’re together in ignorance.

We have Purpose. Love yourself to find it and grow.
There’s no Randomness, and in this I believe.

MORE INFO: http://www.wikihow.com/Strengthen-Character

I see you in me

We have learned how to behave in this world. How to talk, write and explain our thoughts. We've also learned that certain things shouldn't be done and others we should feel obliged/compelled to do them.

This is the modern society's education. Create who you want to be, to become.
So we create a Persona. Persona means mask. The character that is played in a theater, on a stage. And we wear that character to others till it's incorporated in ourselves and it becomes our choices and beliefs. And that's when we get so distant from our true nature that we no longer feel what it's true to us. What are your true beliefs? What are your true core values?

The Dalai Lama has a powerful presence, not because he has a Great Persona that overshadows others, but because he looks at the person he has in front of him with Love, with appreciation, with the thought, "May you be happy".

We are here to learn, we are here to grow up,
not to remain childish and get all we want.

We're ordinary people, living ordinary lives, but we can be extraordinary in the way we see, feel and transform the World. This growth can only come from Love. Really, start loving yourself to really, in truth, Love others.

Genuine Love says "I Love you, therefore I want you to be happy". Genuine Love holds yourself and others gently, with care, and allowing transformation to happen.

Fill fulfilled with yourself first, otherwise you're putting into the other all your expectations, your desires, and you forget that the other person is struggling too.

Love is growth, inner growth. To Love, you must start by accepting who you are, love yourself, and then, accept the other as they are,
as they come and as they go...

“Have you ever wanted to ask a question but you didn’t because you knew in your heart that you wouldn’t be able to handle the answer?”

... be brave and be truly honest with yourself. Nobody else has anything to do it with it. It's your Life, your choices, your own lessons, mistakes. It's your Life, no one else. You're the one who's breathing and feeling it all. You're the one who has to handle those doubts, fears and insecurities. It's your Life.

But, there's one thing you should care about that it isn't about you.

Respect others, their doubts and choices.
It's their Life.

Run like a race for family
When you hear like you're alone
The rusted gears of morning
To faceless busy phones
We gladly run in circles
But the shape we meant to make is gone

Love is a tired symphony
Tou hum when you're awake
Love is a crying baby
Mama warned you not to shake
Love is the best sensation
Hiding in the lion's mane

So I'll clear the road, the gravel
And the thornbush in your path
That burns a scented oil
That I'll drip into your bath
The water's there to warm you
And the earth is warmer
When you laugh

Love is a scene I render
When you catch me wide awake
Love's a dream you enter
Though I shake and shake and shake you
Love is the best endeavor
Waiting in the lion's mane

“One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.”
—
Abraham Maslow

Why do we have Words for things that don't exist?

Like the word "Forever"... or it's opposite.

Because we're souls, beyond time, beyond matter, beyond what the brightest mind can imagine. Sometimes Art can show us glimpses of those other possible realities... or it can set us free.

Either way, it's up to each one of us to find out their own voice, shape and passion. We will fail, we will disappoint, but we will learn, grow and rise. Let yourself fall into Love. Make mistakes. Don't behold in fear. Feel it.

“Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.”
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Anonymous

Melodious bitter-sweet sadness...

"Watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love. But rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along."
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Anonymous



Quando o dia entardeceu
E o teu corpo tocou
Num recanto do meu
Uma dança acordou
E o sol apareceu
De gigante ficou
Num instante apagou
O sereno do céu

E a calma a aguardar lugar em mim
O desejo a contar segundo o fim.
Foi num ar que te deu
E o teu canto mudou
E o teu corpo no meu
Uma trança arrancou
E o sangue arrefeceu
E o meu pé aterrou
Minha voz sussurrou
O meu sonho morreu

Dá-me o mar, o meu rio, minha calçada.
Dá-me o quarto vazio da minha casa
Vou deixar-te no fio da tua fala.
Sobre a pele que há em mim
Tu não sabes nada.

Quando o amor se acabou
E o meu corpo esqueceu
O caminho onde andou
Nos recantos do teu
E o luar se apagou
E a noite emudeceu
O frio fundo do céu
Foi descendo e ficou.

Mas a mágoa não mora mais em mim
Já passou, desgastei
Para lá do fim
É preciso partir
É o preço do amor
Para voltar a viver
Já nem sinto o sabor
A suor e pavor
Do teu colo a ferver
Do teu sangue de flor
Já não quero saber.

Dá-me o mar, o meu rio, a minha estrada.
O meu barco vazio na madrugada
Vou deixar-te no frio da tua fala.
Na vertigem da voz
Quando enfim se cala.

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A Pele Que Há Em Mim
Márcia 

“An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you.”
— 

Goi Nasu

Setting my intentions...

Enlarge your World...

Books,
they carry your soul, nourish it, fill it with hopes, dreams, desires, conquests and turbulent inner dialogues that teach you about companionship, forgiveness and ultimately, about Love.
Thank you writers of this world. Thank you, thinkers of this world.
Technology and Science allow us to live longer and maybe suffer less, but Art allows you to overcome.

On Letting Go

"My dentist once told me that letting go is like pulling a tooth. When it was pulled out, you’re relieved, but how many times does your tongue run itself over the spot where the tooth once was? Probably a hundred times a day. Just because it wasn't hurting you doesn’t mean you didn't notice it. It leaves a gap and sometimes you see yourself missing it terribly. It’s going to take a while, but it takes time. Should you have kept the tooth? No, because it was causing you so much pain. Therefore, move on and let go."
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Anonymous