If you really want to change and become free... find Compassion.

We all suffer, we have suffering in our Life.
That suffering is very important to find happiness.
They are part of the same oneness.

You can't have a right side, without a left. You can't have flowers without rain.
We are all and everything. We're not separated.

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Call the ones in your Life and listen to them. Truly listen to them.
Embrace their hurt, hold them tenderly.
Allow their release.
Know if you understand them enough.

 “When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.”
—
Thich Nhat Hanh

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To feel real compassion you need to Love yourself.
You have to be able to offer you, Love and Compassion.
Help yourself suffer less. Take care of yourself.
Offer your presence to yourself.

“A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it. It just blooms.”