"The words you speak become the house you live in."  

- Hafiz

on Love

“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”

― Louis de Bernières, Captain Corelli's Mandolin

The real drive in life, what a beautiful example...

Design your own Life...

A different raison d’être

"(...) We are here because the Earth wants us here. Life requires a very specific kind of environment in order to survive and evolve. Life is a phenomenon that emerges when the right balance of ingredients come together. The right distance from the sun, the right amount of oxygen in the air, the right ratio of salt in the ocean, etc.

We exist because everything is right in this world.

It is only when we start looking for a reason to exist from a culture or society or other people that we open ourselves to suffering and insecurity. Look around. We are all hairless apes in suits and dresses playing out an amnesiac drama. Take a moment to laugh, because it’s pretty funny when you think about and acknowledge that.

The human game is amusing. It isn’t bad or good; nature leaves nothing to be improved upon. The game is for fun. If we can innovate and provide aid to those in need, wonderful. But there is no winning or losing; it’s all just organic chemistry playing around.

Shift your mandate, your raison d’être, from something describable in words to an awareness of your interdependence with nature. You are nature.

When Buddha was grilled about his new state of Being, and about his reason for still being here, he simply touched the ground in response. The cosmos thrummed in reply.
Touch the earth and let go of everything else."

- Namaste, sangha (http://lazyyogi.org/)

More surf phylosophie...

Drowning in negative thoughts...

... and you feel like you're being overwhelmed by your own thoughts. You're drowning in your own thoughts. And it's wave after wave, you think: Damn, I'm getting depressed, but why am I getting depressed, everyone is out there fighting and creating a future and I'm not doing anything, I'm just sobbing, I should be doing this, and that, oh I'm so worthless... and there you are, going down the negative thoughts spiral...

Just as if you're in the water, take a deep breath and wait for the big set to end. Let those big waves come and pound you, and don't fight it, it will just get you even more tired. Talk yourself into a calmer state. Become aware of where they're coming and what you need to do. Breathe deeply, let them crush above, come up to the surface again, get ready for the next one, and the next, until finally you can paddle out of there.

The important thing to also remember is that those waves are not you, you're just experiencing them, but they'll pass and you'll return to a more peaceful place in no time.

So, if you're feeling emotionally overwhelmed, remember to breath deeply and quiet your mind. Take 10 minutes to breathe and to let those waves pass through you. You'll feel better. Guaranteed.

Saltwater Buddha: Jaimal Yogis

Saltwater Buddha: Jaimal Yogis from Books Inc on FORA.tv

Introspective playlist

Beautiful video and song...

Ode to Oxytocin...

... What's wrong with you, he asked!
Nothing's wrong... 

Maybe I just lack a bit of oxytocin, the "cuddle hormone"...

Oxytocin has been described as the hormone of love. This tiny chemical, released from the hypothalamus region of the brain, gives rat mothers the urge to nurse their pups, keeps male prairie voles monogamous and, even more remarkable, makes people trust each other more. 

But, the love and trust it promotes are not toward the world in general, just toward a person’s in-group. So, Oxytocin turns out to be the hormone of the clan, not of universal brotherhood. 

Also, physiologically, oxytocin rewards those who maintain good social bonds with feelings of well-being, but when it comes on board during times of high social stress or pain, it may "lead people to seek out more and better social contacts", so stress-related manifestations of oxytocin may produce physiological changes that then encourage people to seek contact with others,

Better not stress too much...

Hum, so how do we stimulate it???

Ingestion of food triggers oxytocin release by activation of vagal afferent nerves*
*(Besides output to the various organs in the body, the vagus nerve conveys sensory information about the state of the body's organs to the central nervous system. 80-90% of the nerve fibers in the vagus nerve are afferent (sensory) nerves communicating the state of the viscera to the brain.)

So most likely, it can also be released by stimulation of other senses such as olfaction, as well as by certain types of sound and light. In addition, purely psychological mechanisms can trigger the release. This means that positive interaction involving touch and psychological support may be health-promoting.

So that brings us to the effects of a relaxing Massage...
Oxytocin can be released by various types of sensory stimulation, for example by touch and warmth. Bloodstream levels of oxytocin have been shown to rise during massage.

Sex, Smiling, Holding hands...
Adults seeking an oxytocin surge should head for the bedroom. The hugging and touching during foreplay fires up the love chemical, and orgasm spikes the hormone level to two times the normal amount. This opens the door to a relaxed feeling and a greater opportunity to bond with your partner.

If you're too tired to seek out a bit of badabim badaboom, get a pet ; )
Petting a dog or cat you love can also increase oxytocin levels

Don't have a pet, don't have a partner, don't have food on your fridge, no one you can call?  Well daydream about your most exciting fantasies...

Ah, and another postive aspect: Oxytocin reduces fear...
Animal and human studies indicate the major role of the amygdala in controlling fear and anxiety. Oxytocin tempers the excitatory inputs into the amygdala. 

Ok, people let's cuddle, let's daydream, let's get our Oxytpcin levels higher!

- The previous information was taken from many different websites, not all of them scientifically certified ; )