“The whole world can love you, but that love will not make you happy. What will make you happy is the love coming out of you.”
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Don Miguel Ruiz 



“I am convinced that the truest act of courage, the strongest act of manliness, is to sacrifice ourselves for others in a totally non-violent struggle for justice. To be a man is to suffer for others. God help us be men.”
—
Cesar Chavez

(...) "No livro Mapa Sentimental, Javier Urra defende que a estabilidade emocional se alcança através do conhecimento aprofundado dos próprios sentimentos e da responsabilização pelas acções de cada um. Através do autocontrolo, atingimos a segurança emocional, essencial para consolidarmos uma boa saúde mental." (...)
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Daniel Sampaio sobre:
Mapa Sentimental, Javier Urra

At least bad things do get our attention...

... so we better learn from them and grow. To really learn means, to put in practice our knowledge. Do something about it. Things don't just happen to you.

"The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be." + "The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind."
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Anne Frank + Albert Einstein

Heal

“It always struck me in years after how bizarre it was, how two people could look at one another with such tenderness and complete love, and how quickly that could dissolve into nothing but bitterness.”
—
Hannah Harrington, Saving June

“To my sweet daughter,

If you ever begin to wonder if he is the one, ask yourself:

Does his laughter warm your body from the inside out? He knows that when you say two scoops you really mean three, right? Do you dance in his living room while drinking cheap wine? I hope so, and I hope you’re both drunk and terrible and laughing so hard you cry. Does he tell you how beautiful you are, and if yes, does he say it when the morning light falls upon your face? More importantly, when he tells you, do you believe him? Can you cry in front of him? I hope you can, that means you trust him. When it’s pouring rain does he know that if your hair is curled or your eyes are sad that means he should get the car and bring it to you? When he asks what you want for dinner and you say you aren’t hungry, does he ask if you’ve eaten today? And when you say you had breakfast, I hope he knows you don’t eat breakfast, and makes you a bowl of rice, because that’s your favorite comfort food. Does he kiss you good morning? Good night? Just because? Do you know he likes his coffee black? Unless he wants it cooled, then he will probably want some milk in it, but not too much. Do you know when he prefers tea to coffee? I never quite figured that out with your father, so if you have, you’re a better woman than I. Have you figured out where he’s ticklish? Don’t let him convince you he’s not, I promise you he is. Have you frustrated the hell out of him yet? You will, oh you will, but it’s how you two come out of it that matters. And when he said he loved you for the very first time, did you respond by asking if he’s afraid of heights? I hope with my entire soul that he said yes because that means, despite his fear, he fell for you. Now, darling, you tell me, is he the one?"
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Anonymous

The Real is Now

“Leave behind the passive dreaming of a rose-tinted future. The energy of happiness exists in living today with roots sunk firmly in reality’s soil.”
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Daisaku Ikeda

“This is the real secret of life— to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now, and instead of calling it work, realize it is play.”
—
Alan Watts

Ecologia Emocional

"É a arte de transformar positivamente as nossas emoções. É sabermos canalizar a energia de cada emoção para melhorar a nossa relação com as pessoas e com o mundo. É fazermos uma boa gestão do nosso mundo emocional, como fazemos com os recursos da natureza. Reconhecer e reciclar os sentimentos negativos é a base da ecologia emocional. Tal como num processo de reflorestamento, é possível replantar virtudes e sentimentos positivos.

- Livre-se de sentimentos e situações mal resolvidas e de relações tóxicas;

- Faça uma reforma agrária na sua vida – não dê importância a terras improdutivas, ou seja, a pessoas, acontecimentos ou situações desagradáveis;

- Opte pela criatividade e abandone a destruição. Toda a energia que deixamos de investir em nós mesmos converte-se em infelicidade."
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Ana Teresa Marques |  Psicóloga Clínica


7 PRÍNCIPIOS DA ECOLOGIA EMOCIONAL

1- Autonomia – ajude-se primeiro e verá que os outros também o ajudarão.

2- Independência – não faça pelos outros aquilo que eles podem fazer por eles mesmos.

3- Moralidade Natural – não faça aos outros o que não quer que eles lhe façam.

4- Efeito Boomerang – o que fizer aos outros voltará para si.

5- Respeito – não espere que todos desejem o mesmo que você.

6- Auto Aplicação – é impossível doar o que você não pode dar a si mesmo.

7- Limpeza Emocional – livre-se das relações que o(a) impedem de crescer.

Healing from the Heart

We continue to hold on to old beliefs, hold concepts that once protected us, kept us safe from criticism or something worse, but as we grow it's fundamental that we change to be who we're designed to be. It's important that we become the better version of ourselves and not the fearful and painfully quiet self.

As we change we break the connection with old habits, we break the cast that shaped us and we grow and heal, to be free, to be expansive, to be more. Break free.

And as we recognize that we are the creators of our own Life's path, it becomes clearer that we're also the creators of our own World's reality. My consciousness becomes a mirror of the world's collective consciousness. We're not just tiny little drops in the ocean. We're the little stone that ripples on that vast soulful lake, our society.

"(...) We avoid the things that we're afraid of because we think there will be dire consequences if we confront them. But the truly dire consequences in our lives come from avoiding things that we need to learn about or discover. (...) " - Shakti Gawain

Courage

“The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”
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in "The Wolf of Wall Street" movie

What is Life?

I guess there can be two main perspectives on Life: Life is what it is or Life is something much greater.

If Life is just what it is, then, the facts are that you have a Life expectancy of 85 years, so you have to survive and entertain yourself for 85 years. If Life is something that works itself out, then you have no control on the outcomes, and everything is a coincidence to put things in some right track.

It’s hard to believe in the second point of view. Everything seems to be random and wrong at times, that’s it’s just too hard to believe that there’s some ultra smart sense or purpose behind it.

But we want to believe there’s more. We want to believe that all our Love, Passions, Secret Dreams and all those deep feelings live beyond ourselves, in some sort of soul, some immaterial us.
We get excited through fantasy but maybe the belief of existing something more it’s just that, a fantasy.

The smart way to understand Life is actually to be very analytic about it. You are born, you’re taught a set of skills that enable you to work in the future as well as a set of skills to live in communion with other human beings, and then you get old, and that’s the moment you’ve been preparing for, by saving some money aside, and building a family. You get old and you stop doing most of the things you enjoyed until one day your body just shuts down.

It doesn’t have to be seen as a sad perspective on Life to look at it through analytical lenses. As said, it’s just the smartest way to live Life.

If you bring all the responsibility for a happy life into your own hands, then most probably you’ll live a happy live. Whatever way you choose to look at it, life is never an easy task. The same way some phone calls are hard to do, some talking, some choosing or some foods are hard to eat, life is hard to deal with it. It demands your full attention, and if you put it on hold, you’ll lose opportunities, you’ll lose pieces of it and you’ll regret not having been awake and more active towards life.

So, whether you think there’s more to Life than what we know so far, it is most definitely your responsibility, and everything you choose to do or not to do, shapes it into what your Life is. You’re in the drivers seat, you decide if you want to keep speeding it up or make some stop to refuel. If there’s a turn that maybe you should take to get to know someone, some place, come on, you can always get back into the main road. Hey, if your car gets broken, you can walk, if you can’t walk, you can be seated and be there to talk with whoever needs to hear.

So Life is what you are. It’s the song of your Heart and what you choose to do.
LIFE IS WHO YOU ARE.

“There are only two days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called Yesterday and the other is called Tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do, and mostly Live.”
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Dalai Lama