The Courage to show Vulnerability

The root of the word courage is cor—the Latin word for heart.

So, being courageous meant, to speak, to act from your heart.

But how many outhere do that? I feel so many times that I've been innopportune because I did speak my mind...

What is the problem to say I don't know; I've never seen it; I'm afraid; can you teach me?

The problem is the constant expectations people, and mainly, ourselves have about who we are. We're not supposed to feel insecure; we're not supposed to feel vulnerable; we're not allowed to be tired, we're not allowed to change our minds.

But if you have compassion towards yourself, and towards others, you're not vulnerable anymore, you're just as anybody else. Not more, not less.

"Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity." 
- Pema Chödrön

"Practicing courage, compassion, and connection in our daily lives is how we cultivate worthiness. The key word is practice. Mary Daly, a theologian, writes, “Courage is like—it’s a habitus, a habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.” The same is true for compassion and connection. We invite compassion into our lives when we act compassionately toward ourselves and others, and we feel connected in our lives when we reach out and connect."
- Brene Brown

Practice progress, not perfection.
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wow... I wish.

"Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder."

- Rumi

So, so Powerful! I am an emotional creature!

I love being a girl.
I can feel what you're feeling
as you're feeling it inside
the feeling
before.
I am an emotional creature.
Things do not come to me
as intellectual theories or hard-shaped ideas.
They pulse through my organs and legs
and burn up my ears.
I know when your girlfriend's really pissed off
even though she appears to give you what you want.
I know when a storm is coming.
I can feel the invisible stirrings in the air.
I can tell you he won't call back.
It's a vibe I share.

I am an emotional creature.
I love that I do not take things lightly.
Everything is intense to me.
The way I walk in the street.
The way my mother wakes me up.
The way I hear bad news.
The way it's unbearable when I lose.

I am an emotional creature.
I am connected to everything and everyone.
I was born like that.
Don't you dare say all negative that it's a
teenage thing
or it's only only because I'm a girl.
 

These feelings make me better.
They make me ready.
They make me present.
They make me strong.

I am an emotional creature.
There is a particular way of knowing.
It's like the older women somehow forgot.
I rejoice that it's still in my body.

I know when the coconut's about to fall.
I know that we've pushed the earth too far.
I know my father isn't coming back.
That no one's prepared for the fire.
I know that lipstick means
more than show.
I know that boys feel super-insecure
and so-called terrorists are made, not born.
 

I know that one kiss can take away all my decision-making ability
and sometimes, you know, it should.

This is not extreme.
It's a girl thing.
What we would all be
if the big door inside us flew open.
Don't tell me not to cry.
To calm it down
Not to be so extreme
To be reasonable.
I am an emotional creature.
It's how the earth got made.
How the wind continues to pollinate.
 

You don't tell the Atlantic ocean
to behave.

I am an emotional creature.
Why would you want to shut me down
or turn me off?
I am your remaining memory.
I am connecting you to your source.
Nothing's been diluted.
Nothing's leaked out.
I can take you back.

I love that I can feel the inside
of the feelings in you,
even if it stops my life
even if it hurts too much
or takes me off track
even if it breaks my heart.
It makes me responsible.
I am an emotional
I am an emotional, devotional,
incandotional, creature.
And I love, hear me,
love love love
being a girl.

- Eve Ensler: Embrace your inner girl

WATCH THE VIDEO, IT'S POWERFUL!

or if you want to know more about her actions: TED TALKhttp://www.ted.com/talks/eve_ensler_embrace_your_inner_girl.html

... crossing the line.

Effort is necessary to step onto the path. But once on it, it is easy to let go of the very concept of effort. No effort need be made when you re-discover your inborn naturalness. (...) The more you express your nature, the more natural you become. 
 - http://lazyyogi.org 



"(...) Sometimes said its suntime
Let it sunshine on my mind
Healing I need healing
A good feeling I can Shine
Feel it like you can see it
Like you can dream it in your mind
Sunny Hallelujah comin to ya
Rain or shine

All the same its Conscience waiting
Cross the line"

- Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros lyrics

When you folow that innner artist in you, it feels like this...

But you need courage to believe you're not selfish, you're not lazy.
Society needs all kinds of colors, I mean, people. Society needs people who enjoy their lives, who don’t feel alienated from reality. So, whatever is that you like to do as work, as creation, as your life, don’t be afraid if it looks like it’s not socially recognize as something important.

You’re important. Doing the best of what you like to do is important.



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Primal energy... oneness

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Where I Lived, and What I Lived For (cont.)

"(...) "Não faz muito tempo, um índio errante foi vender cestas na casa de um advogado muito conhecido na minha vizinhança. "Quer comprar alguma cesta?" perguntou. "Não, não queremos nenhuma", foi a resposta. "O quê?", reclamou o índio enquanto se dirigia ao portão, "está querendo matar a gente de fome?" Tendo visto que seus industriosos vizinhos brancos estavam tão bem na vida — já que cabia ao advogado apenas tecer argumentos e num passe de magia seguiam-lhe a riqueza e o prestígio — dissera a si mesmo: Vou abrir um negócio. Vou tecer cestas, eis uma coisa que posso muito bem fazer. Pensava que ao aprontar as cestas teria cumprido a sua parte e que então caberia aos brancos comprá-las. Não se havia dado conta de que precisava torná-las valiosas para o outro, ou pelo menos convencê-lo de que valia a pena adquiri-las, levando-o a isso." (...)

 

"Cada dia que passa mais as nossas roupas se assimilam a nós, recebendo a marca do carácter de quem as veste, de tal modo que hesitamos ao abandoná-las. Nenhum homem alguma vez perdeu a minha estima por ter um remendo na roupa.  Ainda assim estou seguro de que, geralmente, existe maior ansiedade em estar na moda, ou pelos menos de ter roupa limpa e sem remendos, do que em ter a consciência sã."

- Henry David Thoreau

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"No matter what plans you make, no matter what you acquire, the thief will enter from the unguarded side. Be occupied, then, with what you really value and let the thief take something less."

- Rumi

... Home ...

"The words you speak become the house you live in."  

- Hafiz

on Love

“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.”

― Louis de Bernières, Captain Corelli's Mandolin

The real drive in life, what a beautiful example...

Design your own Life...

A different raison d’être

"(...) We are here because the Earth wants us here. Life requires a very specific kind of environment in order to survive and evolve. Life is a phenomenon that emerges when the right balance of ingredients come together. The right distance from the sun, the right amount of oxygen in the air, the right ratio of salt in the ocean, etc.

We exist because everything is right in this world.

It is only when we start looking for a reason to exist from a culture or society or other people that we open ourselves to suffering and insecurity. Look around. We are all hairless apes in suits and dresses playing out an amnesiac drama. Take a moment to laugh, because it’s pretty funny when you think about and acknowledge that.

The human game is amusing. It isn’t bad or good; nature leaves nothing to be improved upon. The game is for fun. If we can innovate and provide aid to those in need, wonderful. But there is no winning or losing; it’s all just organic chemistry playing around.

Shift your mandate, your raison d’être, from something describable in words to an awareness of your interdependence with nature. You are nature.

When Buddha was grilled about his new state of Being, and about his reason for still being here, he simply touched the ground in response. The cosmos thrummed in reply.
Touch the earth and let go of everything else."

- Namaste, sangha (http://lazyyogi.org/)

More surf phylosophie...

Drowning in negative thoughts...

... and you feel like you're being overwhelmed by your own thoughts. You're drowning in your own thoughts. And it's wave after wave, you think: Damn, I'm getting depressed, but why am I getting depressed, everyone is out there fighting and creating a future and I'm not doing anything, I'm just sobbing, I should be doing this, and that, oh I'm so worthless... and there you are, going down the negative thoughts spiral...

Just as if you're in the water, take a deep breath and wait for the big set to end. Let those big waves come and pound you, and don't fight it, it will just get you even more tired. Talk yourself into a calmer state. Become aware of where they're coming and what you need to do. Breathe deeply, let them crush above, come up to the surface again, get ready for the next one, and the next, until finally you can paddle out of there.

The important thing to also remember is that those waves are not you, you're just experiencing them, but they'll pass and you'll return to a more peaceful place in no time.

So, if you're feeling emotionally overwhelmed, remember to breath deeply and quiet your mind. Take 10 minutes to breathe and to let those waves pass through you. You'll feel better. Guaranteed.

Saltwater Buddha: Jaimal Yogis

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