Conscious Re-created

Some people seem to have everyone on their side. How do they do that?
I guess when you don't have an opinion, or if you just don't need anything from anyone it's easier...
... How can one be love and peace towards everyone, and still be treated fairly?
Every time I avoid a conflict I loose something. Every time I choose to clear up that same conflict, I still loose again... How do you do it?
I guess that the people who bend more are the ones more agreeable to everyone.
What are the best tips for living with others? There are a thousand rules in how to live with yourself, but what about you and others.